Toilet training and trusting farts

It’s been 3 weeks and 4 days since I had my ileostomy reversed so I thought I’d give you an update on all things fecal.

Hospital Stay

I met my surgeon and anaesthetist just prior to going into theatre. My surgeon advised that the wound would be closed using a ‘purse-string’ suture and would heal via secondary intention, as opposed to being completely closed. He explained that it would take a tad longer to heal, but that it would result in less scarring, and there would be less chance of infection. Given I’d already been given a healthy dose of Midazolam, I wasn’t really in any state to argue with him.

Surgery took a little longer than expected because being the awesome healing machine it is (remember how my body closed around the wound drain in my first surgery?), the stoma had well and truly attached itself to my stomach muscles and abdominal wall. Other than that, it apparently went according to plan and I woke up a few hours later a little foggy and with a lot less baggage.

The following morning I was up and about and my stomach was already exhibiting signs of life. I graduated to a fluid diet from lunchtime onwards and but for an impromptu spew (I think from taking on too much of the ass flavoured broth), things were fine. Later that evening my bowels fully awakened and in the words of my surgeon, things were a tad ‘chaotic’. I didn’t get much sleep that night and every trip to the bathroom felt like I was shitting molten razor blades.

I graduated to solid food on Sunday, and was given something for lunch that I was told was chicken. Truth be told I have no idea what it was. That evening the surgeon told me I could go home that night if I wanted, but I requested to stay another night, if nothing else so that I could have another meal of solid food before I went home and was fending for myself.

After ‘pork’ for dinner, and wheat-bix for brekky, I was discharged and sent on my way with the cheery wishes from my nurses that they hoped to never see me again.

It would be remiss of me to not mention my roomies during my stay in the hospital. I didn’t have the luxury of a single room this time, although the first afternoon/evening I had the room to myself until just after dinner.

The first two patients were brought in just after dinner on Friday who had had prostate surgery. Their surgeon was pretty much the worst example of a ‘professional’ I think I’ve ever encountered. He was Asian, and could have been mistaken for Leslie Chow from ‘The Hangover’. To the first patient, he exclaimed “you have infection bladder” before making this weird noise that was between a laugh and a sob. To the second patient, he says “How you feeling? Good? Excellent. I’ll see you in a few weeks…oh and cancer came back” with an awkward laugh. The patient asked for clarification and the surgeon replied “the bladder cancer came back. I had to do some more cleaning up. I’ll see you in a few weeks” and then walked out. My heart dropped for the pair of them, but particularly the second fellow.

Fortunately, the second fellow was discharged the following morning, and hopefully his first stop was the Healthcare Complaints Commission. Patient number one was with me for the long haul however.

Patient number three replaced number two and he seemed to be on first name basis with all of the nurses and orderlies. Turns out he was a frequent visitor. A lung cancer survivor, he now had emphysema and had about 60% lung capacity. It took him a solid 20 minutes to walk across the room to use the amenities and then at least half an hour of deep breaths to recover. Didn’t seem to stop him ducking out to buy chocolates or have a quick smoke however… Fuck. Me. The worst thing about that bloke though was that he just. did. not. sleep. I mean, EVER. Overtime I woke up to thread a turd through a needle, the bastard was wide awake watching TV. Maybe it was all the steroids he was on to help his lungs function but was an enigma. He was still there when I was discharged.

Patient number four was a fellow who I worked out was a couple of years younger than me (having overheard him recite his DOB to get his pain meds) who was in hospital for pancreatitis. He seemed to be in a fuckton of pain and the meds were barely making a dint. I felt sorry for him until the morning of my discharge when I overheard the surgical team talking to him and I discovered this was his 6th admission to hospital in as many months, and was all down to his drug and alcohol use.

Back to patient number one, because this bloke really took the cake. He had a urinary catheter but one which came out of his abdomen, as opposed to his old fella. I noticed him struggling to get out of bed so I asked him if he wanted me to get the nurse. He said yes and I dutifully pressed the buzzer. When the nurse arrived and I explained it was for him not me, all hell broke loose. It turns out that the old bloke’s catheter had exploded and bloody piss had soaked his bed, his clothes, and had spurted over the walls and floor. I hadn’t been able to see because I was lying down in bed. All of this happened and the bloke didn’t say a single word. Incredible.

Needless to say, Im sure you can understand why I was glad to be home.

Home is where the shart is

I was home on the Monday morning, only 3 days after surgery.

The Monday and Tuesday were, quite simply, hell on earth. There were times that I longed to have my ileostomy back, if for no other reason than to give my napalmed asshole a rest.

Have you ever noticed when you have diarrhoea that it stings? It’s because of (a) there’s an increase of bile in it, and (b) water is actually pretty abrasive. Both of those combine to make for a pretty miserable existence, even more so when you’re on the can every 5 minutes.

Fortunately, 3 Imodiums later and things had settled down. I found that eating bland foods like bread rolls and chicken helped to slow things down and it was at that time that things started to improve.

Gradually I started introducing different foods into my diet, cautious not to put too much stress on my recently reconnected join. That was until about two weeks after surgery when I decided to throw caution to the wind and put my pipes through their paces.

I started with chicken nuggets. Nada. Then we had dumplings for dinner. Not even a peep. A chicken schnitzel with pepper sauce and a pint of beer had no effect whatsoever, and neither did the following 6 beers, or the Thai curry we had for dinner that Friday night. Pushing my luck, I had some paella with spicy chorizo which had been fried. Again, nothing. After a successful consult with my surgeon, and his reassurance that things were going well and I could expect to return to almost normal in the future, I celebrated with two Indian curries. Again, not even a peep.

Since those three Imodiums, I haven’t had to have any more. Fortunately, all of my turds have been soft and perfectly formed, albeit on the small side. They’re like dwarf poo. Except for one, and it was glorious. I still feel urgency, but have never felt like I’m going to soil myself. My surgeon said that if I’ve survived this far without shitting myself, the odds are pretty good I won’t fill my pants from here on in.

Unfortunately, one of the hardest things for my new plumbing to get used to is only having to go to the can once or twice a day. On a good day I might go 4 or 5 times, and each time is a small cluster of craps, while on a bad day, I might go 12 or more times. Last night for example, I couldn’t go more than 10 minutes without having to visit the latrine, resulting in me getting about 1/2 an hours sleep in total. The surgeon says that it will improve in time, and that I should be grateful that I’m doing so well so soon.

How am I feeling after it all

Physically, I never thought I’d feel so happy to do a shit. Each day/week is better than the one before it and it removed any anxiety I had about having the ileostomy reversed. The pain was much more manageable for this operation, and by the time I went home, I was only having Panadol. The wound is healing nicely, and instead of resembling a bullet wound on my stomach, or perhaps an impromptu pen holder, it now looks like a small dent, as though someone attacked me with one of those melon-ball scoopy things. By only half closing the wound, it heals from the inside out, essentially filling itself in as it heals. Crazy, eh?

Mentally, it’s a mixed bag. On the one hand I’m ecstatic. Looking down and not seeing a bag is the most liberating feeling. Not having to tuck my bag in when getting dressed, or worrying about it filling up when I’m at dinner or the pub is a huge relief. I rolled over onto my stomach for the first time in 12 months today and it felt incredible. I like to think that I adapted to having a stoma pretty well, and yet no longer having it shows just how hard I found it.

It’s also pretty emotional. I look in the mirror and now see a vertical scar on my abdomen and a hole. It is a constant reminder of what I’ve been through and the toll that it’s taken on me. Cancer has taken so much from me and my family over the last 18 months, and not just my rectum. This last time in hospital was much harder for Annabelle, no doubt because she was older and understood that I was sick. She also understands that I can’t lift her at the moment and the look on her face shows that she doesn’t like it. Of course, that’s short lived, and as I’ve said many times over, I can’t complain when so many people don’t get the luxury of having these problems.

So what next?

Healing, and getting back to normal, whatever that turns out to be. I’m back at work, although I had to take today off due to not sleeping last night.

We’ve also booked our trip to Hawaii, which will be a well deserved break for us all, but particularly Lyndell. Hopefully some cocktails by the pool, perhaps some massages and some serious retail therapy will go some way to paying her back for the stalwart effort she has put in over the last 18 months. We told Annabelle and she is so excited, she keeps asking if we can go now. It will be her first proper holiday and we know that she will just love it.

I’m the first to acknowledge how fucking incredibly lucky I’ve been so far in terms of both tolerating and responding to treatment, recovering from surgery, and adapting to the various challenges I’ve been thrown. Without a doubt I couldn’t have done it without Lyndell. In every aspect of my life I’m surrounded by strong women, and that is no more evident than at home when I look at my wife and daughter. There’s more than a few Lavaflows with your name on them sweety when we get to the Aloha isles xx.

So that’s it for now guys, and all things going well, I suspect it will be the last post for a while. Other than quarterly blood tests and 6 monthly CT scans, there’s not much more to tell you. I’ll do brief updates on my colonoscopy and scan results, and when I have my portacath taken out and of course I can’t not write about our trip to Hawaii, but to be honest, I hope that I never have anything newsworthy to report, because, as the saying goes, ‘no news is good news’.

Thanks for coming along for the ride folks. I hope you’ve had some laughs, maybe learned a bit, and if nothing else, appreciate how fortunate you are to pinch off a loaf each and every day like clockwork.

As always, be kind to your colons, and each other.

Peace out

 

Not without my Stoma

This time in a week I will have likely commenced my fasting for my last (hopefully) ‘major’ surgery, which is scheduled for some time on the 17th.

I had my pre-surgery clinic today which was essentially a waste of time, although I did have the pleasure of having a lovely nurse tell me that I’m not the usual person they see coming through the doors with bowel cancer. ‘No shit’, I thought.

Anyways, I met an anaesthetist in so far as he walked past, stopped in the doorway and waved, and then I gave blood for the purposes of finding out my blood type (I’m O+, and have been every time I’ve ever had my blood tested, but they need to be super, super sure) and making sure that I don’t have the AIDS.

The only real shock today was the nurse telling me that I would likely be in hospital for the day, overnight if it was an afternoon procedure. All of the reading I had done suggested that I would be in there for a good few days, waiting for my digestive system to reawaken and spring back into turd processing life.

When I queried her about same, she looked at me and explained it was simple surgery and seemingly no more complicated than removing an ingrown toenail. In regards the former she’s right to a certain extent, and re the latter, well I’m somewhat of an expert when it comes to removing those fuckers and even they can be tricky.

To be fair, I’m expecting the equivalent of a long weekend inside, and hoping to be out by Monday. If I’m out before that, great. If not, all good as well.

What will they do?

They cut a hole around the stoma, down through the muscle (and fat, lots of fat) until the stoma separates and is free. They then trim the sides, but don’t offer lipo or even sculpting (slackers) and then get to work reconnecting everything.

The easiest way to think of a stoma is to think of a thin sausage which has been doubled over on itself and then cut along the fold at the top. The result is something that resembles a volcano, with a larger hole, where the waste comes out of, and a smaller hole, being the opposite side which also releases some mucus because the digestive system still likes to do shit, even when it’s not doing shits.

Those ends are stitched back together and then my intestines are pushed back into my abdominal cavity. The join is tested for leaks and if all is well,  they stitch me up in layers from the inside out.

The whole thing should take between 30 minutes and an hour.

After my propofol nap, they send me back to the ward for a short rest before getting me out of bed and doing shit (hopefully literally). Their main concern is my bowels ‘waking up’ and getting back to business. Sometimes that can take hours, other times it can take days, and sometimes weeks.

Prior to my clinic I had read a study where they were introducing food at an earlier stage post surgery, as opposed to the usual protocol of waiting until there was evidence of bowel movement – stomach gurgling, farts, or a good ole fashioned fart.

The reason being is that strangely enough, our intestines don’t like being handled, and they go into shock, called ‘ileus’, which is when their usual action (peristalsis) comes to a halt and the shit hits the fan (well, gets backed up and causes problems).

The short stay estimate I was given suggests that they are utilising this new protocol because hopefully, they have some evidence that it works.

Recovery

Recovery from this surgery is two-fold: First recovery from the actual surgery/wound; and Second, getting used to shitting from my anoos, as opposed to into a bag.

The former is pretty straightforward. No heavy lifting for up to 12 weeks and light exercise like walking to promote healing.

The latter is where the problems lie… You may recall from an earlier post that my surgeon took the majority of rectum out to ensure he got clean margins. The irony of course is that the neoadjuvant treatment was so successful that any margin would have been clean but that’s another story.

The result of losing most of my rectum is that they took away most of my waste warehouse. My surgeon helpfully built me a custom made one from part of my large intestine but it needs to learn to work as a rectum, as opposed to a colon.

The other problem is that I also had a portion of my sigmoid colon removed, and my descending colon was fashioned into my new poop storage yard. The colon’s main job’s is to remove water, and because some of mine was removed, and part of it was turned into a rectum, it won’t be able to absorb as much water which means… I’m about to buy shares in immodium.

Some people who have had similar operations speak of permanent bali belly, only stopped by kilograms of ammonium, which in turn blocks you up faster than Trump working for the TSA on the Mexican border.

The thing is, I won’t know how my body will react until it’s done. One thing that gives me some confidence is that I didn’t manage to shit myself after my barium enema which suggests that the ole turd cutter is still in good nick.

What then?

Hopefully, life as usual.

I’m really looking forward to going to beach and being able to swim and sit on the beach and have people look at me because I’m fat and not because I have a noticeable bulge that is a bag of shit attached to me. Don’t get me wrong, you can swim with an ileostomy, and many people do, for me it was more of a self conscious thing. I don’t mind people seeing my scars, but the bag was taking it a step too far. I take my hat off to those who can get past that aspect of things and show off their bag with pride, they’re stronger people than me.

I’m looking forward to being able to lie/sleep on my stomach. Sounds so stupid, right?

I’m looking forward to not being self conscious about whether people can see the bag under my shirt, or worrying that it’s leaking and I just don’t know yet.

I’m looking forward to being able to play with Annabelle and pick her up/wrestle without her accidentally kicking my stoma.

I’m looking forward to not smelling rancid shit each and every morning when I change my bag.

I’m looking forward to thinking that people see me as a normal person again. A lot of people have said that they don’t even notice my bag, and when I wear my suit to work they likely don’t. But I know it’s there, and no matter how hard I try, I can’t help but feel that everyone else does too and they’re. always. staring. at. it.

Most of all, I’m looking forward to/ hoping that my daughter stops thinking that going to the hospital is a normal thing. I hope she stops asking me “Are you alright daddy”? and “Can we go to the hospital”? thinking that it’s as normal as going to the park. Annabelle had a rough start to life herself, and she has passed those hurdles with flying colours, but in addition to that she has to see her dad lying in hospital beds with tubes coming out everywhere, shitting in a bag, being tired all the time and flinching when she accidentally kicks me. But by the same token, at least she has a dad, which so many kids unfortunately can’t say.

Lyndell as always, has been, and is, amazing. We haven’t spoken about it but I know that she must be worried, and I know it must suck being powerless while I’m in surgery, let alone having to look after our now 3yo terror, and a grown ass man who will likely be wearing nappies. I know that Annabelle gets her strength from Lyndell (and her temper/stubbornness from me) and I’m so fortunate to have such courageous women in my life.

So, we’re now up to speed, and my next post will either be “Hey, check out my new brown pants” or “Look at me, I’m shitting like a big boy again”.

Until then, be kind to your colons, and each other.

 

2016 – Anus Horribilis: A year in review

This year was a mixed bag. Some awesomeness, a fair amount of misery, and various things shoved up my date. Here’s a quick summary, channeling Clint Eastwood, who somehow managed to defy the celebrity odds and survived 2016:

The Good

I suppose the starting point is that I’m alive to write this post. There was never any real doubt that I wouldn’t be, but I did give it a red hot go by OD’ing on morphine, losing 10% of my bodyweight in 48hrs, and doctors thinking I’d had a stroke.

I no longer have cancer, and haven’t had cancer since my surgery in March.

I had a complete pathological response to neo-adjuvant treatment which is not only pretty fucking cool, but also not all that common if you read the journal articles.

I was discharged from my radiation oncologist with the cheery advice that the cancer was unlikely to come back.

But for one bad round, I managed to smash through my final 9 rounds of chemo without any major (see below) issues.

My post surgery scans and blood tests have all come back normal which is a positive sign.

I got notification of my surgery date to reverse my ileostomy so I don’t have to shit in a bag for that much longer. That will be nice.

I have been fortunate to have had the ongoing support of my wonderful wife who is one of the strongest people I know. I’m certain that I wouldn’t have had the same response without her being there, attending treatment and appointments with me, and looking after our terror, as well as me, so that I could focus on getting better.

My little monkey, while driving me crazy on a daily basis, is growing into a funny, kind, adorable little person. Even better is that my dad is now able to spend more time with her and is really developing a wonderful relationship with her, something that he couldn’t do while caring full-time for mum (see below).

I have a wonderful bunch of friends. I’ve had a ‘Meatiest’ put on in my honour prior to my surgery. I’ve had people attend various treatments with me which made them almost fun. We had people cook us meals so that we don’t have to worry about it after a long day at the infusion centre. Thank you so much – that party is getting that much closer every day.

The Bad

I lost my beautiful little mum, who passed away less than a week after I finished chemo. Maybe she was holding on long enough to make sure I’d get through it, maybe it was just pure coincidence. For someone who had every right to be mad at the world and to complain she never did. Other than Lyndell, probably the strongest woman I know, and who did so much for me. She introduced me to ancient history and supported my wanting to be a lawyer ever since I can remember. I miss her so much but am glad that she’s no longer in any pain.

Not even 2 months after mum died, my grandma, my last surviving grandparent, died. I’m fortunate that Annabelle got to meet her great-grandmother, as well as Lyndell’s grandfather as well (see below). I always had a soft-spot for my Nanna, and being one of two grandchildren, my sister and I were spoilt rotten by her every time we saw her. She was one of the loveliest people I’ve ever had the pleasure of meeting, and so  fortunate that she was my Nan.

I’m absolutely gutted for my dad. In addition to losing his wife and mum, one of his closest friends died of a similar condition to the one mum had. I was lucky enough to know his friend as well and I know that his death, only a week after mums, really rocked dad to the core. I can’t imagine how my old man keeps going, particular given he has his own health problems. To describe him as a hero is selling him way short.

My wife lost one of her close friends from uni in tragic circumstances only 2 weeks before Christmas. Having to break the news to her was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do and I can’t even imagine how her husband, a wonderful fellow, is coping.

Just as 2016 rushed to an end, and we thought that we couldn’t endure any more sadness, my wife lost her beautiful Pa. He had been diagnosed with bowel cancer some 20+ years ago and had a recurrence in recent years, which, but for palliative care, was unable to be treated. He was a remarkable man, who grew up on the land but made a point of travelling the world, and documenting it in photos. An enduring memory of him will be our daughter singing and dancing while he played the violin to her. Annabelle was so lucky to be able to meet such a great man.

The Ugly

I’ve had a number of things shoved up my anoos this year: cameras, staplers, more cameras, hoses, dye.

I’ve had my pelvis irradiated such that for a while my shit resembled molten lava and it felt like I was pissing razor blades.

I’ve been shitting in a bag since March. Overall, it’s not that bad, but it’s a different thing entirely when it leaks at 2am and you have to clean yourself, change the sheets and then spend the rest of the night worrying that it’s going to happen again. If you think your turds stink, try smelling output from an ileostomy first thing in the morning. To quote Rn Burgundy, “It stings the nostrils”.

In the space of 48hrs I lost over 8kg through diarrhoea. That’s a lot of shit. You know the warnings on the back of Immodium packets about the maximum dosage? Yeah I smashed that out of the park.

I have peripheral neuropathy in both my hands and feet. My fingers are affected down to my palm and my feet alternate between feeling like I’m wearing a wet sock, and feeling like I’m walking on shards of glass. I can’t even walk on grass barefoot.

I have chemo-brain. It affects my memory in different ways and the best way to explain it is to imagine a fog hanging over every memory and everything happening in slow motion. It has really affected my confidence, particularly in court, which really irks me. Maybe others can’t see it, and maybe they can. I know it’s happening, and perhaps that’s the worst of all. Perhaps it really is “all in my head”.

I have ongoing anxiety which spikes every 3/6 months in the lead up to blood tests/scans to monitor whether the cancer has returned. I can feel it in the weeks leading up to it and it makes me a shit (shitter) person to be around.

So what’s next?

I’m booked in for my ileostomy to be reversed in mid-February and at this stage will take 3 weeks off to recover from same. I’ll save the details of that op for my next post but suffice to say, I’m more concerned about the recovery than the surgery itself.

My hope is to have my portacath removed at some stage this year, although the odds of that happening seem slim. If I can manage to have clean blood results/scans for the remainder of this year, I may be able to convince them to take it out at the end of the year, or early next year.

Other than that, and regular blood tests/scans, cancer-wise, I’m done. If only it was as easy in reality as it was to type that. While I was having treatment I wanted to simply get on with things and ‘move on’. Ironically, the further I get from diagnosis and treatment, the more it seems to play on my mind. I can’t tell you exactly how it’s changed me, and perhaps I never will be able to put it into words. I can’t even tell you whether it’s changed me for the better or worse. Only time will tell.

What I can tell you is that 2017 is looking good, albeit this post is written at the end of the first day of the new year.

Workwise I have some huge trials coming up this year which are both interesting and challenging.

I’ve been approached to participate in a clinical trial determining whether aspirin helps against recurrence. There’s also some exciting plans in the pipeline which I’ll keep you posted about in due course.

On a family/personal front I’m looking forward to a trip to Hawaii for a long, well deserved break as well as some trips to New Zealand and some interstate jaunts. And that party is getting so much closer.

So folks, until next time, be kind to your colons, and each other.

Peace out

And we’re in…

Warning – this post is entirely about my ass, things going into it, and things coming out of it… You’ve been warned.

I recently ‘celebrated’ a year since my diagnosis. Not with champagne and caviar. Not with a cuban cigar and a 30yo single Malt. No, I celebrated with a rubber hose being inserted into my anus and my bowels being flooded with contrast dye while they took photos.

On Friday I had a Gastrografin Enema, which was about as fun as it sounds. Essentially, it’s a leak test, and is the final step to make sure that it is safe to go ahead with reconnecting my small intestine, pushing it back inside where it belongs, and stitching me back up.

You’d think I’d be used to things going up my ass by now. At least two fingers have gone up there, a camera, and a stapler, and that’s what I’m aware of. But(t) for the fingers however, I’ve been asleep for the remainder and so have been blissfully unaware of the discomfort. I wasn’t so fortunate on Friday.

There are two types of contrast material that they use to check the anastomosis; Barium and Gastrgrafin. Barium is the usual contrast of choice, but Gastrografin is preferable in cases such as mine where there is a risk (albeit tiny) of there being a leak. You see, Barium leaking into the abdominal cavity is bad news. Like, medical emergency bad news, whereas if some Gastrografin leaks out, it’s more ‘meh – unfortunate but it won’t kill you’.

I was met by Cameron, the Radiation Technician and Neisha, a student in the last year of her degree and shown into a room that looked like it was off the set of ‘Hostel’. On an aside, why is that whenever I have to drop my pants and have a medical procedure, there is always a hot chick?? Anyways, I digress.

They went through what was going to happen in cheery tones, trying to skirt around the issue that they were both going to see my anoos. Any dignity I had left after finger tests, colonoscopies, rectal surgery, sponge baths, CT scans disappeared like a fart in the wind.

Then came Ross the Radiologist (note the alliteration), a fellow who looked far too young to (a) be sticking anything in my anoos; and (b) be anywhere but the paediatric ward of a hospital. Fortunately, he confirmed what I had hoped, that they would be doing the abridged version of the test today, as they were principally interested in the anastomosis site, as opposed to checking the entire 5ft of my large colon. This pleased me greatly, as it meant I only had to turn from my side to my back and not a full 360*.

Before I knew it, I felt the cold stickiness of the lube and the foley catheter at my balloon-knot and then heard Ross say “gentle pressure, gentle pressure, and we’re in”. Having not had anything pass by the turd-cutter for some seven months, it was a strange sensation.

Ross then helpfully prepared me for the pending onslaught with the comforting words “now comes the uncomfortable part”. With that they began flooding Miguel’s former home with a combination of contrast and air to distend my bowel and put it under pressure to test it’s structural integrity. My flinching, grimacing face and single tear rolling down my face as I yelped “I think that’s about enough” brought with it the comforting pat on the head from another nurse who had managed to sneak into the room while my pants were down. “You’re doing well, darling” she said, like I had a choice to be there at all.

They turned the screen so that I could see the contrast material flow into, and throughout my large intestine. Of most interest was being able to see first hand the anastomosis site, which came with an added surprise.

You may remember I described the anastomosis procedure in an earlier post. I had always assumed that my surgeon did what is called a simple end-to-end anastomosis which means they take the healthy part of my large intestine, and staple it to the end of the healthy part of my rectum and Bob’s your uncle, all done. Kind of like removing the muffler and instead having a straight flow exhaust. What I saw was a custom made rectum, fabricated by my surgeon by doubling the end of my large intestine back on itself and cutting it to create a pouch that would serve as a new rectum. It may not mean much to you guys but it has huge potential for me down the track. Having a shit warehouse again means that I hopefully won’t have to spend as much time on the throne once things are hooked up. The reason being that the large intestine is almost constantly moving by a process of peristalsis. Imagine a caterpillar crawling and that’s kind of what it’s like. It constantly moves to push waste along. If it were an end-to-end/straight through, then my digestive system would simply continue pushing waste until it hit what was left of my rectum, and I would have little time to find a latrine before shit literally got real. This way, things may be a little kinder, but only time will tell.

Many images were taken, and Ross helpfully pointed out various parts of my anatomy that we could see on screen. Next thing you know, Harry came in, because clearly there weren’t enough people in the room while I had a garden hose up my date, and he confirmed that all was well and my torture session was over.

I then scampered to the loo/change room and bore down, opening the flood gates and recreating Niagara Falls with my ass. After what seemed like an hour, but was in reality a few minutes, I slipped a gigantic cotton gauze pad that resembled a sanitary pad for an elephant into my pants and went to talk to Ross to get the good news.

No leaks, no strictures (tightening of the bowel), and from what they could tell, no adhesions (sometimes during surgery the bowel can ‘stick’ to a different part of the peritoneum and cause pain/complications down the track). I was sent home with a cheery smile that we both knew meant “I hope I never have to be that close to your anoos again”. That makes two of us Ross.

Having survived the next few hours, I have a new found respect for women who encounter cramps on a monthly basis. For the blokes out there, imagine being constipated for a week, and the turd is pressing both on your asshole and the top of the pipe. And then imagine someone punches you in the stomach, which breaks up the turd, and leaves a small gap which is immediately filled with air. And then imagine that someone grabs your intestines and gives you a chinese burn. That’s almost what it felt like.

I managed to make it home (and indeed through the next couple of days) without shitting my pants, or leaking any contrast fluid. That may not sound like much of an accomplishment but for someone who hasn’t used their anoos muscles for seven months, it’s equivalent to winning the Nobel Prize for Shiteracy.

Anyways, I survived, and as has been the case with all of my medical adventures so far, was bloody interesting, albeit a literal pain the ass and something that I never want to go through again.

Next step is to see my new surgeon and get a date to be put back together.

Until next time, be kind to your colons, and each other.

Move along, nothing to see here

So it’s been some time since I last wrote an entry and I’d be lying if I said a lot hadn’t happened in that time so this is just a quick catch up.

Buoyed from the stellar pathology results, I awaited my appointment with the oncologist to ascertain when we got back to the poisoning. It was a strange feeling. On the one hand I wanted to get back to treatment as soon as possible so as to be actively doing something, and if for no other reason than, the sooner I started, the sooner I finished.

The oncology registrar I saw was not near as excited by my pathology results as I was, and was almost blasé about the whole thing. She confirmed that I would be completing a further 9 rounds of chemo, bringing my total to 12, the gold standard of care. She gave me my treatment plan and I saw that the fun began the following week.

Treatment #4 of 12 and beyond

The worst chemo round I’d had was the one immediately before Christmas last year, and I think that was simply because I was disconnected a couple of days before Christmas and so hit the wall on Christmas Day, making it a less than festive occasion. I lay down for a nap at 4pm and didn’t wake up until midnight, and then went straight back to sleep again.

This first round back was a shocker. And by shocker I mean, losing 5kg in a week, being unable to get off the couch/out of bed/and lying in the foetal position crying, unable to move for fear of projectile vomiting. For a week.

It turned out that they were giving me the same dose as pre-surgery, despite the fact that I had lost almost 14kg from surgery and adapting to the ileostomy. The result was that it completely flatlined my liver function, red and white blood cells and basically sent my body into “what the fuck have you done to me” mode where it wasn’t a happy camper.

That shit was changed quick smart and in a hurry when I went back to see them before the next round and the dosage was reduced to match my much more svelte figure. Fortunately since then, my chemo rounds have been relatively uneventful, other than the fact that whereas I used to experience a ‘chemo wall’ at the end of a treatment week, each treatment brings with it a constant ‘fog’ where everything feels much more difficult than it ought.

Clean scans makes for a happy man

Part of my routine monitoring is regular CT scans of my abdomen, chest and pelvis to check for distant metastasis. The tech that conducted the scan was cagey as all fuck and didn’t really leave me with much confidence, although my ‘scanxiety’ was relieved considerably when I had the scans in my hot little hands and was able to compare them to the previous scans and my lay eyes couldn’t discern any difference, of course other than the lack of a big-ass tumour in my butt.

My ability to interpret scans was reinforced when the oncologist rang me and confirmed that all was normal and ‘unremarkable’.

“There is no evidence of disease (NED), you’re in remission and I never want to see you again”

Perhaps the biggest news came from my radiation oncologist in my first (and now last) consult with him following surgery.

I had been reading a buttload of journal articles which led me to believe that in light of the complete pathological response, I was technically in remission. It was another to have that inkling confirmed. I sat down and with a big smile, he said “The scans and blood tests show no evidence of disease following your neoadjuvant treatment and surgery. You’re officially in remission. We’re going to keep a close eye on you for some time but you can put this behind you and focus on being a dad, husband, mate and work colleague. The risk of this coming back is negligible at best”. I raised with him some statistics I had read in some articles about survival rates and he agreed, reiterating that “tumours that respond in the way yours has is a self-fulfilling prophecy, they don’t come back”. He added that he could never give me a 100% guarantee but the smile on his face showed me the level of confidence he had in what he was saying.

Fuck. In less than 10 minutes I had my life back. I saw my future which is something that was hiding in the background of my mind for so long.  I saw myself walking Annabelle down the aisle as a real possibility, and even a likelihood. I saw annual holidays to Hawaii as something more than a pipe dream. In the blink of an eye, all the pain, the overdosing on morphine, the stuck drain, the leaking ostomy etc were worth it.

Are you drunk?

One bit of excitement was an impromptu visit to hospital during the chemo round before this one (I was disconnected today). I turned up to work and while talking to a colleague, noticed my tongue feeling heavy and I was slurring my speech. Apparently it wasn’t noticeable to anyone else but it was clear as day to me. It happened once more a few minutes later and then my lower lip went numb.

Suffice to say, I don’t think that’s supposed to happen and so I rang the treatment centre and it was suggested that I spend the day with them to rule out a Transient Ischaemic Attack (TIA), or mini stroke.

My annoyance of having to take a day off work when I otherwise felt fine dissipated when I met my ER doctor who was a real cutie. I was quite happy to have her perform a neurological exam on me and was relieved I didn’t get a half mongrel when she stroked my thighs to test for symmetrical nerve function.

Another CT scan, this time of my head to check for clots, bleeds or crayons (think Homer Simpson) revealed nothing (other than a brain – I made them double check and confirm this). Of perhaps the most relief and further reducing my ‘scanxiety’ is that they didn’t find any lesions or tumours. It’s uncommon, but not unheard of that bowel/colon/rectal cancer can metastasise to the brain and because it’s not common, they don’t routinely scan the head as part of ongoing monitoring. If nothing else, it was another body part that I can cross off the list as showing no evidence of disease.

They’re not entirely sure what caused it, but their best bet is that it was a dodgy reaction to the chemo, likely the Oxaliplatin. A google search confirmed that same was a rare, but not unheard of side effect. They obviously weren’t concerned enough to stop my treatment, as they hooked me up Monday gone and disconnected me this afternoon.

So where do we stand now?

I only have three more rounds of chemo to go. Apparently, I have already outlasted the vast majority of patients in terms of tolerating the most violent of my chemo drugs, Oxaliplatin. Most people don’t make it to 6 without the drug being removed from their treatment because it’s a nasty motherfucker. I’ve survived 9 and there is no indication that I won’t be able to make it through to the end. Again, the more of that particular drug I can tolerate, the better the long term prospects of remaining cancer free. Micrometastises really don’t like Oxaliplatin, and the fact that my response was so overwhelming prior to surgery puts me in good stead that if anything is left behind, it isn’t happy, and won’t be around for much longer.

After I finish chemo I have another appointment with my surgeon and he will refer me for a barium enema. I’ll save that for another post, but suffice to say, I suspect it’s going to be as uncomfortable as it sounds. The purpose of that ‘exam’ is to test the join between my healthy colon and my turd-cutter and make sure that I’m right to have the ileostomy reversed.

How am I feeling about this whole fiasco?

It’s weird but as I get closer to the end of this whole thing I find myself getting more emotional about the whole thing. Finishing chemo is bittersweet. On the one hand I’ll be stoked to not have to go and spend a day in the hospital each fortnight. On the other, not having any treatment removes that safety net that we’re not actively doing anything and it’s now down to my body resting on the hard work it did/has done so far.

I’m not as concerned about the coming surgery as I was the last one because comparatively, it’s a walk in the park. The operation itself takes between 1/2 hr to an hour and to be honest, I’ve watched it performed on YoutTube that many times I could probably do it myself/ I’m more concerned about the recovery, and getting used to what will be the new ‘normal’ for me in terms of using my custom made anoos. Only time will tell and that’s a story for another post.

I’m looking forward to life getting back to ‘normal’. Being able to sleep without fear that my ostomy will leak, or being self conscious about it when I’m out in public. I’m looking forward to getting back in the surf and taking photo’s. I’m looking forward to being able to sleep in. I’m looking forward to being able to eat all the things I’ve been craving (pretty much anything that has a skin on it). I’m looking forward to being able to eat ice-cream/drink cold drinks whenever I want instead of only every second week. I’m looking forward to not feeling tired ALL THE FUCKING TIME, although I know that this will take some time to recover from. Most of all I’m looking forward to being a better dad and husband, and making it up to Lyndell and Annabelle for the time that we’ve lost due to this shitty situation we found ourselves in.

Lastly, I’m looking forward to my “Fuck you Miguel” party, so I can have a drink with all you wonderful people and thank you for keeping my spirits up and generally being awesome. You fucking rock.

Until next time folks, be kind to your colons, and each other.

No viable tumour cells…

So March 18 has come and gone, just like Miguel, that shitty pain in my ass.

As we were driving to the hospital ready to be checked in, I received a call advising me that my surgeon was running early and could I get there ASAP. I replied that I was looking at the sign to turn into the hospital and would see them soon.

Lyndell dropped me off and parked the car and came to meet me later. No sooner had I given them my name was I given two wristbands, asked a buttload of questions (they were most happy that I told them I’d shaved my bits) and given a gown to change into.

Next thing I know I go out to see Lyndell, my sister who had flown down from Brisbane and my parents in the waiting room, and we were ushered into another room where I was allocated a bed and given some stylish stocking to prevent blood clots forming in my legs during surgery. As if that wasn’t enough, they also fitted me with inflatable calf cuffs that would inflate/deflate throughout the operation.

I thought that I would have half an hour or so with my family but it was not to be. In what seemed like less than 5 minutes, I was waving goodbye as I was wheeled towards the butchery.

I met my anaesthetic team who were hilarious. Sensing that I was anxious as all fuck, he gave me some Midazolam which he referred to as a couple of cheeky pale ales. My sort of doc. Then I was wheeled into theatre to be met with what seemed like a cast of thousands and more machines than I’ve ever seen in my life. I commented that it reminded me of the opening scene of “Monty Python’s The Meaning of Life” and asked if they had the machine that went ‘BING’. True to form, my anaesthetist laughed while the rest of the people, including my surgeon, looked at me like I was speaking Greek. I then recounted the scene, although I can’t remember how far I got into it because I was given propofol, aka the ‘milk of the gods’ and I commenced a long nap.

Unbeknownst to me, poor Lyndell was receiving no joy in terms of updates, other than “he’s still in surgery” or “he’s just come into recovery”. We all thought that because I was taken to theatre so much earlier, that I would be out sooner, when in reality, they didn’t start the surgery until the allotted time. Unfortunately they didn’t tell Lyndell that and she thought the surgery was taking much longer than expected, and of course, fearing the worst. I’m grateful that my sis and parents were there to keep her company, I can only think of how terrifying it was when Annabelle had her surgery and that was only for an hour. To say she is a trooper is selling her short and then some.

Anyways, my next memory is waking up the following day, where I apparently enquired whether KFC delivered to the hospital. The tube shoved down the back of my nose and down my throat however suggested that I would not be having the dirty bird anytime soon.

All was going well and I even managed to get out of bed and shuffle the 15m to my new room, which was agony and the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. The sponge bath that followed made up for it somewhat.

My surgeon visited and informed me that the surgery went exactly as planned, and that he had examined my liver and that there was no metastasis, which was my greatest fear, particularly when I looked down at the surgical dressings and it looked like there was a wound which my anxiety based research showed me was present after a liver resection. He also informed me that he thought he had got clean margins, but that in order to be absolutely sure, he had performed an ‘Ultra-Low’ Anterior Resection (uLAR), instead of the planned LAR. I haven’t had a chance to ask him yet because that can mean either my whole rectum was removed (which has flow on effects once my ileostomy is reversed), or whether it is simply below the pelvic plane). Hopefully it’s the latter, but I’ll know more when I have my follow-up consult with him.

Morphine: Geoff says ‘yeah but no but yeah but HELL NO MOTHERFUCKER’

So as anyone who has had major surgery will tell you, when you wake up you have a nifty little pump thing called a PCA or Patient Controlled Analgesia. Having been previously informed that it was impossible to overdose, and being in fucking agony after my trek down the hall, I pumped that thing with reckless abandon, unfortunately a little too recklessly.

Lyndell left to come back later as I was sleepy and I dozed off. Unfortunately, my sleep was so deep that when I awoke, I was surrounded by hundreds (ok that’s a tad of an exaggeration) faces yelling at me. I was delirious and thought I was in another hospital. I could see my parents and sister but the rest were just unknown faces. It turns out that, unbeknown to everyone, Geoff and Morphine are not the best of friends and my tolerance is somewhat lower than normal. Apparently I was ‘unresponsive’ for quite some time, and they needed to give me a dose of Narcan, or Naloxone, which is the stuff paramedics give to junkies when they OD on heroin. All I can really remember is shivering like I had been stuck in an avalanche for a week and basically feeling like I was stoned off my fucking chops. Fortunately, Lyndell was there to see me, but unfortunately, my parents and sister were. I later found out that I had a Glasgow Coma Scale score of 3. I’ll let you google what that means, but suffice to say, shit was pretty real for a while there.

That evening they reduced the dosage of the Morphine, and increased the lockout period (the time between which you can press the pump and the drug is actually administered) and again assured me that it was now impossible to OD. Needless to say, I was reluctant to take their advice and I pressed that little fucker considerably less than I probably should have.

The worst part of that experience, other than, you know, being close to death an all, was that they moved me to the room directly next to the nurses station. That was brilliant during the day, but fucking terrible at night, as the Ward seemed to convert into a shitty gossip hole where each respective shift of nurses would bitch about the previous/next shift of nurses. The result was no sleep and surprisingly, given my proximity to the nurses station, shit customer service.

Good Nurse/Bad Nurse

By and large, the nurses who looked after me were fabulous. Perhaps most interestingly, was that one of the best wasn’t even a nurse yet, she was still at uni. The general rule was that the morning/day shift were fabulous. Massively attentive, kind, and really friendly. They really made lying naked in a hospital bed, unable to move with anything that resembled speed or grace, a palatable experience.

Particular shoutouts should be made to Hayley, Jess, Liz, Gemma (the student), Tracey, and my ostomy nurses.

Liz and Gemma stayed behind after their shift ended and guarded my room so that nobody could come in and try and remove my drain without my consent after it was realised my drain was stuck (see below), Tracey convinced the on-ward doc to allow me to remove my NG tube so that I could feel like I wasn’t suffocating to death (see below) and my ostomy nurses made the confronting reality of having an ileostomy bag that much easier to deal with.

The ‘Bad’ nurses were like demon spawn.

One thought it would be hilarious to recount my overdose in front of my parents and talk about how close to death I was. What makes that even more offensive is that my mother is wheelchair bound and completely unable to talk/express herself thanks to a terminal neurodegenerative condition. So here is my beautiful mum, crying while this banshee scrag of a bitch prattles on about my OD. I politely told her that I was fine for the moment and didn’t need anything and could she leave so I could be with my parents.

The worst one however, Annette (I won’t publish her surname as I am lodging an official complaint with the hospital and I don’t want her to find this blog and perhaps sue me for defamation, even though truth is a complete defence to such a ‘charge’.

Annette was a lying, cold hearted cow whose soul, if she had one, would be blacker than crude oil, mixed with carbon and sprinkled with coal dust. I had the misfortune of having her on a number of days in the afternoon shift, which finished late at night/early hours of the following morning. Below is a summary of her indiscretions:

  • ignoring a request for pain medication/water to take meds with
  • ignoring a request to change my bed while I had a shower, resulting in me stripping my own bed
  • leaving me sitting on a chair waiting for my bed to be made while she wrote up some notes because that was way more important
  • huffing and muttering under her breath when she ‘had’ to make my bed because I couldn’t do it myself
  • lamenting about how terrible the patients on the ward were and how demanding they were as I was wheeled back from recovery following my drain being removed under sedation
  • essentially slamming my pain medication down on the table and then flouncing about when I asked for some water to take them with
  • skipping medication at the allotted times
  • lying about checking in on me recently at shift changeover.

I get that nurses are busy and they have a tough job, and that there are patients who don’t make their life any easier, but to have to strip my own bed three days after surgery because they’re busy having a cup of tea and writing up charts and then bitching about having to do their job is not on.

The tubes and tribulations of surgery

Prior to surgery, I knew that I would have to have a drain and a catheter, and while I wasn’t looking forward to either, particularly the latter, I accepted it. What I wasn’t expecting was a NasoGastric (NG) tube which runs through my nostril and down the back of my throat and makes life generally miserable.

Following my overdose, they took an x-ray of my chest to check for pneumonia etc. What they discovered during that x-ray, but never told me, was that the NG tube had repositioned itself, no doubt during my violent shivering/shaking during the Narcan taking effect, and that it needed to be repositioned. The result was that I spent two days feeling like I was choking on something until Tracey, a lovely nurse with a still strong English accent, convinced the on-ward doctor to remove the NG tube. She prepared me by telling me to take a deep breath in, and that she would pull it out as I exhaled. Fuck.Me! The tube was only a mm or two thick but when she pulled it out it felt like she was pulling a fucking Anaconda up my throat. However, once it was out, I felt like a new man. I was able to drink water and eat ice properly (at that stage was still on IV fluids only) and generally felt like a normal person again, notwithstanding that I still had tubes coming out of my abdomen and schlong.

The catheter was the next thing to come out, and if I thought the removal of a NG tube was bad, I was soon to be rudely awakened. Same deal, deep breath in and we’ll pull it out on the breath out. Having it removed felt like a 1000 ants scurrying through my urethra while dragging bread crumbs at the same time. Hopefully I won’t have to have one when I have my ileostomy reversal surgery.

The last tube to be removed was my drain, and this was singlehandedly the worst, most painful part of my entire hospital stay. The drain I had is called a Jackson Pratt drain, which is remarkable in it’s effectiveness and simplicity. It basically works on negative pressure caused by a bellows, which in turns creates suction, thereby removing excess fluid through the drain and into a receptacle. The drain itself can be either flat(ish) or round, and is connected to a tube…duhhh. The unfortunate thing is that the drain is thicker than the tube, and is generally placed from the inside out during surgery, that is, the thinner, tube part is pushed out of the body through the incision while the thicker, draining end remains inside the wound site. The result is that there is a flange or shoulder where the tube and the drain part meet, see below:

Drain

Unfortunately, being the super healer that I am, my body and already started to heal around the drain incision site, meaning that it had closed around it. When they tried to remove it, they got to the shoulder, and then I watched on in agony as my skin was distended from the inside out. My screams of ‘FUCK’ and tears streaming down my face were sufficient for the nurses to call stumps on that endeavour.

The rest of that day was waiting for the surgical team who inserted it, to finish so we could certain whether they had stitched it in by mistake. One of my surgeon’s underling offered to ‘have a go’ if I liked. I politely advised him that I declined any further intervention unless it was removed with suitable pain medication, a local anaesthetic, or sedation, and that any attempt to so without those prerequisites would amount to an assault. He looked up my chart, saw my occupation as a prosecutor, and said he would try and ‘see what he could do’. True to hospital form, that later visit never came, and that evening I finally managed to have a shower and the aforementioned bed making incident occurred.

In the very early hours of the morning, the night shift nurses again offered to try and remove it, while at the same time, bitching about the nurses that morning who had tried, unsuccessfully, to remove it. I again reiterated that the drain would be removed under sedation, or via further surgery. She laughed, saying that they would never sedate a person simply to remove a drain. I explained that I can be very persuasive and she laughed, patted my shoulder, gave me my undone and wished me pleasant dreams. Oh how I wished we’d made a bet.

The following morning, my surgeon came into have a ‘look’ at this errant drain. Without any warning, and certainly without any pain medication, he gave it a good old yank which again led to me screaming and crying, followed by profuse apologies by the surgeon, although I note he wasn’t sorry enough to offer me his IWC pilot watch to me to make amends. And just like that, it was announced that the drain would be removed under sedation.

Again, I waited for most of the day, which was boring as fuck, particularly because I was fasting, and only made more palatable by a visit from the surgeon with my pathology results, but more on that later.

When they wheeled me into theatre, I was again met by an awesome anaesthetist, despite his botched attempt to canularise me. Again, I saw the milky goodness that is propofol and we laughed about why cardiologists shouldn’t be allowed to get access to it (Michael Jackson jokes). Apparently I was unconscious for all of 20 seconds to remove the drain and lo and behold, I was tube free.

Complete Pathological Response

If you take nothing else from this post, this is the important part.

While waiting for the drain to be removed, my surgeon came in and announced he had ‘good news about my cancer’, informing me that he had received the pathology and that he had gotten clean margins. I asked about the tumour regression grade (TRG) which is a scale used to measure how effective neoadjuvant (or pre-surgical) treatment (i.e. the chemo and chemoradiation I had for three months) had been. His response was “I don’t know, I didn’t read that part of it, I just wanted to make sure I got it all out”. With that, he was gone. I was suitably elated, although interested to know what the TRG was as it is massively relevant to prognosis. A minute later my surgeon came back in a thrust a copy of the pathology report in my face and then again disappeared like a fart in the wind.

I scanned through the pages until I found what I was looking for, a summary of which is set out below:

  • No tumour cells are seen and the whole of this area has been examined
  • Tumour Regression Grade: 0 (Complete response) no viable tumour cells
  • Regional lymph nodes: 0 nodes involved, total number of nodes is 12

I’m not ashamed to say that on reading the above I started sobbing big, fat tears. I’m crying even writing the above, and every morning when I’m in pain from my blood thinning injections, or when my stoma site or wound hurts, I read it again and tell myself it’s all worth it.

In its simplest sense, it means that I no longer have cancer. That the treatment thus far has been completely utterly effective in eradicating the tumour from my ass. True, there could still be microscopic cancer cells floating around my body and that’s why I’ll still have to have a few months of adjuvant chemotherapy but in medical terms, you can’t get any better response to treatment than this. And to give you an idea of what a big deal it is, all of the studies I’ve read reveal that only between 6-20% of people get such results.

But the long term results are much more than that. The fact that all the lump nodes were ‘clean’ is great news in terms of prognostics, as the lymphatic system is one of the most common way that cancer cells spread throughout the body. The other is the venous system which was also clear in the specimen removed. Essentially, it means that it is far less likely that the cancer will recur later in life. I’m not out of the woods yet, and I have to wait until I see my oncologists to get some more information but suffice to say, I’m fucking stoked. A couple of recent studies I’ve found that in patients with a complete pathological response, they have a greater than 95% chance of not having a distant recurrence in the 5yrs following surgery. Most oncologists will tell you that recurrences are most likely to occur within the first 2yrs and that every day you go without a recurrence, the chance of it happening decreases. my results mean that the odds have swung firmly back into my favour.

Shit in a bag

A couple of days after surgery, my stoma started making funny noises and output, notwithstanding that I was still on IV fluids as opposed to proper food.

What quickly followed was a visit from my stoma nurse, who showed me how to change the stoma bag, and generally care for my new attachment. Then, before I knew it, it was my turn to change the bag, under supervision, and I received full marks.

I have to say that seeing part of my small intestine sticking out from my stomach is still something i’m getting used to, and sometime, I just sit there and watch it work after a meal. The human body really is incredible, and I have a new found respect for medical pioneers who worked out surgical techniques that allow people to (a) survive, and (b) do so with a good quality of life.

While confronting, and annoying sometimes, all things considered, having a stoma is really no big deal. I’m still a little self-conscious about it but have been told that people can’t really notice it if they didn’t know it was there.

So what’s next??

For now, just recovering. Each day I get stronger and more mobile. The pain is getting much better each day. To give you an idea, I’ve gone from 12 Endone a day to 3, and when I run out of this script, I can’t see myself renewing it.

I have 2.5weeks left before I have to go back to work, but to be honest, I can see myself being back a week early.

I meet with my oncologists next week to share the good news and have them tell me how awesome I am, but more importantly, to find out what the chemo regimen they have for me is and when it starts. I can’t have the stoma reversed until the chemo finishes so I want it to be over sooner rather than later.

The bummer is that I have to have more chemo at all. If I was 30 years older and had the same results I have thus far, they wouldn’t offer it to me, but because I’m young and strong enough, I anticipate that they’ll continue to punish me for as long as I can handle it, up to another 9 rounds.

That sounds like a lot, but it’s every fortnight, so it will be over fairly quickly. Plus, I’ve been very lucky side effects thus far and there is no reason why that shouldn’t continue. The bottom line is that this is these guys bread and butter and obviously, I’ll do anything to increase my chances of being around for as long as possible.

It would be completely remiss for me to not mention how incredible Lyndell has been through all of this, particularly while I was in hospital, and now that I’m home. I was shit-scared about the surgery and I was asleep through it all. I can only imagine what she went through waiting to hear the news that all went well.

She has had to essentially look after two children, one who is taking the term ‘terrible twos’ to the nth degree, and one who, for some time, was a stoned cripple.

She hasn’t complained once, even though she is exhausted, her back hurts, and she’s still been working at the same time.

I can’t think of how I will ever repay her, other than to buy her multiple handbags and take her to our favourite place in the world (Hawaii duhhh) where we, and most importantly she, can recharge the batteries and just do nothing.

I love you sweetie, and can’t believe how lucky I am to have you in my life. I couldn’t have done this without you.

Anyways, that was was longer than it was meant to be, and I fear I still missed things out.

As always, until next time, be kind to your colons, and each other.

GK

A Ship in Troubled Waters

Self indulgent/whiny/woe is me/negative post ahead…

Over the last few days the enormity of what faces me next week has sunk in, and I say that with the full respect to those who have gone before me, and two that I personally know, who have said not a peep about their ‘journey’, and yet have been kind enough to lend me a sympathetic ear.

This time next week I will have met with, and been marked by, stoma nurses, supposedly guiding my surgeon as to where the most appropriate place to site my ileostomy is.

This time in 8 days I will have commenced my bowel preparation, which is about as much fun as a fire hose through my insides, and wiping my ass with sandpaper.

This time in 8 days I will also know my surgery time, which, for reasons unknown to me, seems to be a state secret until the day before I am supposed to have a prolonged, not-by-choice sleep.

This time in 9 days I imagine (read as hope) that my surgery will be complete and I will be convalescing in a hospital bed, waking to my loved ones confirming that (a) I am still alive, and (b) that all went well.

So why the whining? Because I’m over it. I didn’t realise how over it I was until I went in to have my port flushed yesterday and sitting in that shit awful chemo room reminded me of how much has passed, and more importantly, how much more is still to come.

I’m over feeling tired. All. The. Time. I’m over the fact that in that respect, the worst is still to come.

I’m over people being overtly positive about how well I’m doing/done/looking and thinking that I will therefore ‘beat’ this. I know you mean well but it gets wearing. The simple fact is that while the odds at present are in my favour, they’re still not great. It’s more likely than not that I will die from cancer. To be completely blunt, it’s more likely that I will die from cancer before I turn 40.

Even that assumes I survive surgery, and I can tell you that the fear of not doing so, has, in recent days, consumed a vast majority of my waking moments. The rational part of my brain tells me that my fears are unwarranted, and yet the irrational part of my brain imagines Lyndell cradling Annabelle and my dad having to explain to my mother, who herself has an imminent terminal fate that something went wrong. And then nothing.

I’m over the fact that this potential death sentence is my/our future for as many years as I walk the earth.

I’m over putting on a brave face. The simple fact is, I’m scared shitless. In the last week every time I’ve looked at my daughter I’ve been on the verge of tears. I had to ring my dad and ask him to be my executor in the event that my surgeon/anaesthetist are not as good as they claim…Imagine how that conversation went down??

I’m even over shitty stuff like losing my hair. I always said that I didn’t mind if I lost my hair and if that’s what it takes to survive, then I’ll happily be bald as a cueball, but it sucks washing your hair in the shower and watching clumps of hair fall out. Perhaps I could see some to Donald Trump.

Most of all I’m over thinking about what I’ll miss if/when I’m gone. I feel sick when I think of Annabelle calling someone else ‘dad’. I can’t fathom that person helping Annabelle through the most important years of her life, and yet at the same time, if I do succumb to this shit of a disease, then I desperately want Lyndell to remarry so that Annabelle has a father and Lyndell finds love again…

I’m over having to think/write about this shit at all!

Anyways, I’m sorry. For  some reason everything caught up with me today and I had to vent.

Until next time, be kind to your colon’s, and each other.